Not Wanting What You Don’t Want

Do you ever feel like you should want to do certain things — because it’s common, expected or because most people do them — but you just plain don’t?

I have always felt the pressure to want to do things that I simply don’t want to do. Whether it comes from parents or peers, feelings of inadequacy towards the majority have many times dictated my past actions.

But every time we act against our genuine wishes and interests, we fall into a path of misery and suffering, reinforcing to ourselves that there’s something wrong with them — and there isn’t.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to how we want to spend our time. Our paths may look nothing alike but both are completely valid.

I’m an introvert, I don’t love big crowds, which makes imposed socialising and big events far from appealing. In fact, attending such events can be detrimental to my physical and mental health. My greatest contributions to the world will be done when I’m alone.

I also feel the need to dedicate at least as much time to my spiritual and personal growth and the part of life that has nothing to do with work. As humans, we’re made of so many sides and nuances.

By honouring our deepest wishes, there’s the possibility of experiencing authentic joy. So let’s stop questioning them and allow ourselves to be drawn to what feels right.